I struggle with the holidays. I know I'm not alone - there is just something about happy people all around me that makes my wounds throb a little harder, makes my tears a little hotter, makes my soul a little more raw.
John would be two. This would be Drew's first Christmas, the one with the special "My First Christmas" bib and a little bow tie outfit to wear for goofy holiday photos. I can't even bring myself to hang up to ornaments with their names engraved on them. I can't do it. It hurts.
I do have a photo I did last year of their little footprint cards from the hospital and put them in a holiday frame to be put out every year, but how strange to take a family portrait this year and frame it and place it next to those little footprints. It reminds me, never subtlely, that they are supposed to be here, that we should be baking more cookies and wrapping more presents and creating more memories and new photographs together.
The feeling overwhelms me. The grief washes over me nearly every day. Something - two somethings - are missing. That isn't ever going to change. I'm glad I took the photo of their footprints nestled in a holiday wreath - I'm glad I have at least that.
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